This is among the signs and symptoms of someone under quarter-life crisis. You’re falling for someone else even if you are strictly committed already… but you know you are not a bad person…
Girl 1: So kamusta na kayo ng boyfriend mo?
Girl 2: Ok naman kami… sya ok sya…
Girl 1: eh ikaw?
Girl 2: I just feel like I want him to remain a “constant” in my life forever… but I’d like to marry someone else.
Girl 1: So you just need him now for a companion, you mean?
Girl 2: I don’t know.
Can you argue with feelings? No, you can’t. Feelings are just as they are, neither right nor wrong. What you do about them makes all the difference, I guess.
After all, feelings change – as much as people do also.
If the conversation above represents one “semi-shameful” moment in life, I think it is just as revealing. It’s one step a little closer to the truth you refuse to accept – because you think you are not a bad person. You just had a change of mind (heart) one point in your life.
Some people stay in a relationship not because they still have that “giddy-romantic-feeling”. Most of the time, they also dream of someone else, someone better they think they deserve. But because their love for the other person has come to a different level, they begin to believe that things WILL be better. People change. And because of love, they hope that the other will change for the better. Maybe not as exactly as they’d want him/her to be… but just enough to be deserving of a patient love that one is willing to give.
To complete the sentimental stream of thought, here’s one mushy image representation: 🙂