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Today I sat with God, and this is what He told me…

On Choices and Turns

If you are one with me and most of my friends, perhaps you are caught in this quarter life stage where you think every decision is THAT important. It is a time when you believe that every choice you make will directly impact your future, whether in big or small terms. More than anything else that we twenty-something’s go through, the thought of eventually making the wrong choices is my greatest fear as of the moment. It drives me nuts each time I succumb to over-analysis of what if’s and what could have-been’s. It’s a series of nightly thought sessions which I believe has one aim: that is to make a desperate one out of me. It is this fear that leads to desperation that troubles me the most. It’s not really the decision that scares me, but the grueling process of going through each of them before I act on a choice.

Why are we so afraid of committing a mistake? Or maybe in my case, I’m afraid of making the same mistakes – again. I’d like to see it as the beginning of maturity. But oh, how cruel this growth pattern seems to be! It feels like you are trapped halfway between being responsible, and reckless at the same time. You worry about the future, but you miss your youth so much you wish you can just go back in time when throwing your heart away is cool.

This is a time when suddenly you realize your head was really meant to be on top of your heart. The hardest part is when you can’t draw out the line between happiness and misery.

A friend tells me, there are really no certainties in life and that we are bound to make the mistakes we’re making. That’s awfully sad and hopeless, don’t you think? But at the same time, I cannot deny the fact that maybe it’s easier to be desperate than to be hopeful in this world. It takes a lot of courage to hope – and hope again.

For the sake of my own sanity – and if you feel we are on the same boat maybe you’d consider this:

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. [Heb 11:1]

And whatever we might be going through right now, regardless if we are unsure or certain, when we have faith that we can get through it with His hand holding ours, no wrong turn is too remote to lead us back on track.

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on Brida, the novel

There’s a certain hour of the day when you say to yourself, “This is it for the day.” Even if you’d like to work just a little longer, and a little bit harder, you simply just can’t anymore. I hate it when I come to that point in my day. I feel so useless and pathetic. It’s like my train of ideas begin trailing off the moment the clock strikes 5:00.

One thing I realized though, it’s better to find some other things to do to take my mind off this terrible hour of the day, instead of sulking about my being unproductive. So i decided to blog, and to contemplate about Paulo Coehlo’s line in his novel “Brida”:

When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.

Do you feel defeated today with the amount of work left undone? Or with having to deal with stress-inducing relationship issues? Are you disappointed with your lack of zeal or enthusiasm towards work and life? Did the mistakes of yesterday get the best of you? Maybe when things become uncomfortable, it is a welcome sign that we are being pushed or lead to a certain direction we ought to take.

Change is good, even if it doesn’t feel so much so.

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10 Ways to Stay Positive in 2010

Happy New Year everyone! Oh yes, it’s been 10 days since 2010 knocked on our doors, but just the same the new year-new life fever is still on. I have finally given up on my resolution (for 3 straight years already) to lose weight. I realized it is to no avail :) And maybe, just maybe, the thing that fails me is the attitude. The same goes for many things in our lives, not just weight loss. We kinda trail off after some time because our attitude does not sustain us.

So anyway, this year my resolve is to be positive, stay positive! In everything, in any kind of mess I get in, I’ll try to see the brighter side and make my optimism come true *fingers crossed*. If I have that, I’m positive that the weight loss thing will turn out well, too.

If you’re a nega-star or a nega-holic, staying positive is just as challenging as a left-handed trying to write with his right hand. I realized, it will not just be timely but helpful to give out some tips on how to keep your pluses (+)  the whole year through.

Here are 10 Ways to Stay Positive in 2010

1. Forget about the things you can’t control

The thing that robs off our joy and hope is worry. I have learned that there are really so few things in life that we can control, ourselves included. The rest are out of our hands. Does it seem like a futile activity to keep on worrying about something you can’t really do anything about? Answer: YES. So quit the wrinkle-inducing thought, and believe that everything is being held by God’s loving hands. Hope for the best!

2. Focus on your goal

The power of goal-setting and ambition drives us to stay motivated. Think of the scenario when you are finally done with a long standing project. What relief and pride you would feel, isn’t it? Most of the time, what we set our hearts and minds into are the very things that keep us going. Also, remember to take note of your successes along the way, whether big or small.

3. Appreciate the moment

If you’re coming from a terrible breakup, of course you would be crazy if you feel appreciative of your current state. That would be such a tall order. But many times, we forget that moments just pass us by – whether they are good or bad. If you have a happy picture currently, savor and enjoy before the moment passes you by. If it is one that crushes your spirit, be comforted with the fact that its harsh fires will burn off after some time. Circumstances are always neutral. It’s how we deal with them that makes all the difference.

4. Choose your crowd

You don’t want to be stuck in a sea of misery all year, don’t you? So choose whom you hang out with! Research says that feelings are contagious. You can get the vibes of another person if you constantly spend time with him or her. Choose sunshines and rainbows. Bond with this crowd.

5. Spend more family time.

Have you ever noticed that after a weekend of family picnic, or whatever get-together you spend brings out the positive energy for Monday? Because we all in need of our base, our home – it’s where we recharge to face the world in the coming week.

6. Decide to keep on learning

New discoveries spur our minds to be active. The excitement of reading a new book, visiting a new place, or mastering a new skill can sustain our spirits to be on the move. Learning keeps the ball rolling. That makes boredom and procrastination to settle somewhere else. So decide to learn new things everyday.

7.  Stop comparing yourself with others

Regularly criticizing yourself is no good, especially if there’s another person in the picture. Sometimes I am guilty of this – trying to measure up as I check out what others have achieved, instead of feeling genuinely happy for them.

Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, think of how good the Lord is in blessing someone else’s life. From that point of view, you will begin to see the wonder in your own life brought by His hands.

8. Laugh often

Some of its Benefits:

  • Relieves stress
  • Contributes to skin-wellness
  • Attracts the opposite sex – now, don’t we all want that? :D

9. Hold your Tongue

When you feel like saying the *F* word or whatever negative term you habitually say, hold it! Don’t let another let-down word upset your day or someone else’s. Even if we sometimes say things we don’t want out when provoked, try your best not to give in. Trust me, it’ll make you feel a lot better than when you cursed the world or something.

10. Count your Blessings

Finally, believe that a grateful heart attracts more blessings to come your way. When you are thankful for what you have regardless if these are big or small, plenty or few – counting one’s blessings makes you smile (admit it!) The best part is, the positive disposition powers the universe to conspire for you to make greater things happen in your life!

So keep the optimism burning and have an amazing 2010! It’ll be larger than you think.

I’m positive about that! :D

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Glorious Wednesdays: Tatak Pilipino

Because prayers are meant to be answered: I will be giving prizes here at  Glorious Wednesdays :)

As for the month of September, I had a difficult time picking the best  Wednesday post because all were worth-reading. However, I feel that I should  feature 1 last blog post specifically for the benefits of the Ondoy victims. For  that, I commend Fr. Jun-G of the Society of Jesus (Jesuits). They are doing  God’s work by being active in the Simbahang Lingkod Bayan

Let’s hear it from the “Passionista” with his post “Tatak Pilipino”. This is so in-  rhythm with my being a proud Pinoy. Now you know why I chose his post:

salamat o Diyos… salamat.

mamaya… bukas… sa susunod… masasaksihan ko naman ang bagyong magbibigay ng hindi hapis… kundi kagalakan sa puso.

pagkakaisa. pagtutulungan. pagmamahalan.

ito ay tatak PILIPINO.

That is the authentic Filipino Bayanihan spirit coming alive amidst the storm! When you think about it though you may ask yourself, does it have to take an Ondoy before we help our brothers and sisters in need? I’m just peaceful to know that in times like this though, we can count on the Filipino :)

I did not forget about your prize Fr. Jun-G hehe… but it comes in the form of a donation under your name – yep, to be given to your dedicated ministry: Simbahang Linkod ng Bayan. Hope you like the prize hehe! Gcash coming in a while (romela de leon) ;)

Congratulations Fr. Jun-G, SJ.

Congratulations Fr. Jun-G, SJ.

To the winner, and to all the bloggers who wrote for September – Thank you for sharing your wonderful words on Glorious Wednesdays. Let’s carry on with the faith until next month :)

For those who want to donate via Gcash to SLB just type in:

DONATE_<Amount>_<4-digit pin>_SLB and send to 2882

Your help is needed most now.

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Glorious Wednesdays: Be Connected!

This is the second time that I went tardy on posting for Glorious Wednesdays (what’s new, rom?). I am beginning to be like this lately – late for meetings, late  for an exam, late in praying, etc. But believe me, I never intend to be this way –  ever. In fact, the moment I open my eyes what runs through my head are the  various “to-do-bullets” I have in my notepad.  Really, I think that is being so  short-sighted or narrow-minded amidst all the blessings around every morning.  Thus, I end up stressed out the moment I wake up (what a way to start a day!)

I start the day “disconnected” to the power source – and that could be the reason  why I go late most all of the time. Life has been a robotic routine in which I  depend on myself to get through daily.

As Fr. Stephen Cuyos puts it:

The robot mirrors how many of us live our lives. Like the robot, we want to do things by ourselves, independent of others.  Often we rely on our strength alone. Like the robot, we forget that without being connected to the source of all power we can do nothing. True strength, true power comes from God.

Read more about Fr. Stephen’s post

Have a Happy Faith and “be connected” this Glorious Wednesday Friday :)

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Holiday Giveaways for your business

Everything seems to be going well the past 2 days. I was able to pass  my Google Adwords Professional Exam (not with flying colors, mind you! hahaha), and finally found the time to work on my passport requirements. Today  also, I met with Mr. Jun Asis to discuss about the “writing for the web” workshop. Me and the international missionaries group are cooking up this much-awaited, one-of-a-kind, power-house online writing workshop. Obviously, I’m being biased here hehe…

This project is setting me on fire – so much passion I feel down in my tummy :) Of course, it is not without challenges. Aside from a busy schedule, the temptation to feel proud and all is there. Everyday it is my prayer that God will teach me to be humble so that it is His name that shall be glorified. (Okay rom, it isn’t Glorious Wednesday yet).

Here is the real deal:

Anyway, the parents tasked me to do something naman for our dear laundry business. Since the Yuletide season is knocking at our doors (Septem-BER na!), I’m now searching online for prospective giveaways from Bubble n’Joy :) You should plan to scout or design one too if you’re running a business.

Here are some of my crazy finds:

laundry souvenir

My best, favorite bet is this one (though my mom and dad would definitely not succumb to…)

laundry bag 3

let's go korean :)

Isn’t she a darling? :) This will surely cheer up our loyal customers (to the surprise of mom and dad). Who says your business giveaway must be boring, generic, and looks like it deserves the trash bin? Let’s have some fun once in a while :)

This one though is perfect for my bathroom:

laundry bag 4

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Glorious Wednesdays: Life doesn’t always happen the way you plan it

Yesterday was Mama Mary’s birthday. It is just right that we offer our Glorious  Wednesday for this week to this wonderful woman-saint of true obedience to God’s call.  Had she not taken upon her the Lord’s will for her life, where could we have found  the Savior Jesus Christ on earth? In honor of our Blessed Mother, I chose Sky  Ortega’s Mercygrass.com to be our featured blog this Wednesday.

Here’s a favorite excerpt of her post: Life doesn’t always happen the way you plan.

And God of all creation is really hard to understand. Haha, how He maps out your life to be in accordance to His divine will. To be able to let you see the beauty that He has created for you. Sometimes you will just find yourself in another situation and asks yourself, why you are here but ultimately realizing that it is the best place you should be at the moment. Times when you make quick decisions and even whine of the happenings in your life, God will just be there to say, “Okay whine, and then after, I will talk to you.” And that is the most amazing feeling I get. When God allows me to realize the things that He is doing in my life. But of course, I have to do my part. I have to fulfill my own plans and then allow God to turn these plans into “His” plans.

Sen. NoyNoy Aquino announces his candidacy for the presidency on Sept 9, 2009

Sen. NoyNoy Aquino announces his candidacy for the presidency on Sept 9, 2009

And truly the Lord’s plan is just perfect. Look at the news  today at 09-09-09 (September 9, 2009 – also the 40th day of Pres. Cory Aqunino’s death).  They say now is the “signs of the times”. Well, I normally do not believe in signs. What I do know hoewever, is that God has allowed it to happen – that Sen. NoyNoy Aquino will announce his decision to run for the 2010 Philippine presidency today. It wasn’t NoyNoy’s plan in the first place, but the Lord has a way of rearranging our lives according to His will.

A lack of fund for the big presidential campaign is the challenge for the only Aquino son (it’s a good thing he has Kris as his sister :) ). For my part, I think this would be my way of helping his campaign. You can help him too if you believe that democracy should be a free (but not cheap) commodity for all Filipinos, regardless of your net worth.

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Glorious Wednesdays: Why Am I Not Blessed Yet?

Today is the first Glorious Wednesday episode. Wednesdays represent the Glorious Mystery of  the Rosary (and Baclaran day, too! :) ) So in honor of this holy mid-week, I will be featuring  inspirational blog posts about faith from various bloggers all over the globe. Who knows, I  might send a GW (Glorious Wednesday) love token for the best post each month!

For today, August 26 – we read from YourDailyWord. This blogger has a very impressive  profile  to start with – “An Electrical Engineer, Call Center Team Lead, and most of all – a minister of God!”

Here’s my favorite part of his post: Why Am I Not Blessed Yet?

The issue is not whether God wants to bless us or not. In fact, God wants to bless us. That’s already a given fact! [Gen. 12:3] The question we should ask ourselves is “Why are we asking for the things we’re asking?”

James clearly said, “we don’t receive what we ask because we ask with wrong motives.”

So much for my turbo-panic-mode of finding an apartment to stay before the month ends. If you are not among the people I see everyday, you are lucky for you are deprived of my endless whinning over finding an apartment near Villamor or Makati. I have this deadline with my landlord up to end of August only. After that, I sleep on the streets. Lol! :)

If you are like me, you’d probably be asking the Lord too “why I am not blessed yet?” I’m a good girl naman eh. Maybe I’ve been asking with the wrong motives in mind – or I am just of little faith.

Whatever you are going through right now, if you are waiting for some miracle or blessing to happen (and it’s not happening you ask!) – then surely there’s a reason for it. One is that you need a quick check of the heart :)

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3 points why being single is all good :)

After a month of separation, the loss has started to sink in. I thought I’d be able to get through this without much tears… but I am only human. So now I decide to accept that here is the sad lonely part: when you begin to miss the person and the good ol’ times.

I sympathize with single women out there who feel that this is a hopeless battle. Even if for the most part of my young adult life I was in a commitment, there have been some years when I spent it without someone to hold hands with. And I had my share of difficulties too. Through it all, I still think singlehood is precious grace from God, and it is normal to feel like struggling. Why? Well, I just thought it would be good to share it in 3 points:

(1) Loneliness is a universal feeling – yes even married people feel this way. Which is more sad? Lonely because you are without someone, or you are lonely despite being with someone? When you think about it this way, you’ll see lonely single men/women are in a better position, don’t you think? Or maybe because we human beaings, married or single, will always have that emptiness inside us all – that vacuum only God can fill. So let’s feel it all out! Go empty big time! And let our big God fill in the pieces of our lives back again.

(2) It is liberating. There is a certain kind of freedom that singlehood brings. Now I am free from having to consider the next person when I need to decide on something – both life changing (or not so). Gone are the days when the calendar is sketched to fit in what’s convenient for the relationship. No more thinking like “2 or 3 years from now, what should I be doing so we can settle according to the plan?” Although planning ahead is good, I can only plan for myself and my family now. It’s freedom from the third party.

(3) It draws you closer to God. Reading from a favorite author, Rissa Singson-Kawpeng wrote in her book Confessions of an Impatient Bride that sometimes during Valentine’s Day, the pain (of loneliness) is so real she is brought to tears. Some nights I feel I am pushed to such low levels that I would be crying out to God, “Lord, please stop me from missing him… please.”

Whenever I pray that way I feel a certain peace in my heart, as if Jesus is telling me that “My Grace is sufficient for you…” . We say our most ardent, most beautiful prayers when we are in pain and broken. This surely has drawn me closer to Him.  And so, isn’t this all good? :)

When I reflect on these thoughts early this morning I thank the Lord because after a few teary-nights, I began to see more of the sunshine today :)

but He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness.” I will rather boast most gladly of my weaknesses, in order that the power of Christ may dwell with me. – 2 Corinthians 12:9

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let’s roam around some more

I’m sporting a new “blog look”! I was inspired by one of my friends to start off fresh for my humble cyber real estate. It coincides greatly to my 25th year on earth because 25 is the this is it year! A year of change and growth :)
Besides that vague reason (hehe), today I decide to take heart – to seek and fulfill the nagging desires inside me so I can serve Him more. To function according to our core gifts is the only way we give justice to this crazed existence.
One of the new features of my blog (well aside from the header and my *cute* gravatar.. ehem..) is the Glorious Wednesdays. Every Wednesday, I will feature inspiring faith stories of bloggers around the globe. That’ll bring them link love and good, holy traffic hehe.. But more than anything else, I think the opportunity to share your faith is more than a gift.
So cheers to a new found chapter of learning, journeying, praying, growing… and roaming around some more – because it becomes even more beautiful when you look around some more.

I’m sporting a new “blog look”! I was inspired by one of my friends to start off fresh for my humble cyber real estate. It coincides greatly to my 25th year on earth because 25 is the this is it year! A year of change and growth :)

Besides that vague reason (hehe), today I decide to take heart – to seek and fulfill the nagging desires inside me so I can serve Him more. To function according to our core gifts is the only way we give justice to this crazed existence.

Glorious Wednesdays One of the new features of my blog (well aside from the header and my *cute*  gravatar.. ehem..) is the Glorious Wednesdays. Every Wednesday, I will  feature inspiring faith stories of bloggers around the globe. That’ll bring them  link love and good, holy traffic hehe.. But more than anything else, I think the  opportunity to share your faith is more than a gift.

So cheers to a new found chapter of learning, journeying, praying, growing…  and roaming around some more - because it becomes even more beautiful when  you look around some more.

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